supporting your partner

Perhaps your partner has come out to you as a different gender and/or sexuality to what you thought they were. It might have been a surprise, or perhaps you've known for a while - but at the end of the day it's important to remember they are still the person you chose to be in a relationship with, and they've been courageous enough to open up to you about an aspect of who they are.

Read stories from people who have been in similar situations, and find support groups for people whose partners have come out. 

Relationships are a choice; a decision made between people wanting to be together. For a lot of people, hearing that your partner doesn’t share your sexual orientation might be daunting and finding out they fancy people that aren’t of your gender can raise questions.

So your partner isn't straight...

One evening of March 2009 my husband sat me down and told me that since the age of 8 they had felt they should have been female, and unless they explored this, they would never be content. They did not say they were leaving the family home or marriage; I was told that was up to me, and I had no idea what decision to make. I was also asked not to discuss this with anyone that we knew for the moment.

My story of being married to

(and now divorced from)

a trans woman

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Queer Partners of Trans People

A place where all queer identified partners of Trans* people can come and get support and share stories


Straight Partners Anonymous

SPA’s purpose is to bring together in mutual support women and men whose relationship with their gay, lesbian, or bisexual partner is in crisis.

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Transgender Partners Support Group

We know sometimes there can be bumps when in a relationship with a member of the Trans community. This group is here so that when you hit one of those bad days or you need advice or just an ear to listen, you have someone there.