I’d been out of an abusive relationship for six months. My “monster” wasn’t a “he”; she was a her. The patriarchal heteronormative narrative surrounding abuse seeps into all of us, convincing us that all abusers are men. This ideology is particularly harmful for LGBTQ+ relationships, as it promotes the notion that any relationship outside of this woman/man binary cannot be abusive. The truth is, abuse doesn’t have a gender.
written by Saraya Haddad (she/her)
I'm in an abusive relationship, what should i do?
The LGBT+ IDVA (Independent Domestic Violence Advisor) is our service which specifically works with LGBT+ people who are experiencing domestic abuse.
GREATER MANCHESTER DOMESTIC ABUSE HELPLINE
0161 636 7525
0800 999 5428 - National Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Trans+ Domestic Abuse Helpline. Emotional and practical support for LGBT+ people experiencing domestic abuse. Abuse isn’t always physical- it can be psychological, emotional, financial, and sexual too.
National Centre for Domestic Violence
We specialise in providing free, fast and effective support to survivors of domestic violence and abuse, usually by helping individuals obtain injunctions from their local county court. This free service is provided to everybody, regardless of their financial circumstances, sexual orientation, race, gender, age, political, religious belief or otherwise.