Abusive relationships

I’d been out of an abusive relationship for six months. My “monster” wasn’t a “he”; she was a her. The patriarchal heteronormative narrative surrounding abuse seeps into all of us, convincing us that all abusers are men. This ideology is particularly harmful for LGBTQ+ relationships, as it promotes the notion that any relationship outside of this woman/man binary cannot be abusive. The truth is, abuse doesn’t have a gender. 

written by Saraya Haddad (she/her)

I'm in an abusive relationship, what should i do?

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Star Refuge

Domestic abuse refuge for London's LGBTIQ+ Community, run by The Outside Project.


Respect Men's Advice Line

Call 0808 8010327

Our friendly Men’s Advice Line Advisors will believe you, offer you non-judgmental emotional support, practical advice and information.



G. Manchester

The LGBT+ IDVA (Independent Domestic Violence Advisor) is our service  which specifically works with LGBT+ people who are experiencing domestic abuse. 


0161 636 7525



0800 999 5428 - National Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Trans+ Domestic Abuse Helpline. Emotional and practical support for LGBT+ people experiencing domestic abuse. Abuse isn’t always physical- it can be psychological, emotional, financial, and sexual too.


National Domestic Abuse Helpline

National Domestic Abuse Helpline 0808 2000 247


National Centre for Domestic Violence

We specialise in providing free, fast and effective support to survivors of domestic violence and abuse, usually by helping individuals obtain injunctions from their local county court. This free service is provided to everybody, regardless of their financial circumstances, sexual orientation, race, gender, age, political, religious belief or otherwise.

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