I’d been out of an abusive relationship for six months. My “monster” wasn’t a “he”; she was a her. The patriarchal heteronormative narrative surrounding abuse seeps into all of us, convincing us that all abusers are men. This ideology is particularly harmful for LGBTQ+ relationships, as it promotes the notion that any relationship outside of this woman/man binary cannot be abusive. The truth is, abuse doesn’t have a gender.
written by Saraya Haddad (she/her)